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How EFT and Kinesiology-Based Methods Are Better Than Even Hypnosis To Stop Smoking

Posted by – June 23, 2011

Welcome to the continuing story of “Marcelle” (not her real name), one determined ex-smoker-to-be slowly but surely overcoming a stubborn smoking addiction. To give you some background, I have a good history of helping smokers quit in one session in London and usually within 6 sessions in Cape Town (different cultural stresses). Marcelle’s relatives quit with me in 2-3 sessions, and she does understand the benefits of going at her own pace, which is relatively slower but a very healing process.

 

We are using a mixture of EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, or Tapping, and kinesiology-based muscle-testing and treatment. The treatment is gentle and removes the emotional reasons behind the smoking. As these are removed, Marcelle is able to smoke less. Every time that we can, we draw up a plan to cut down on the daily number of cigarettes smoked. The last target that Marcelle had was 7 cigarettes. It is the 10th session, and Marcelle showed me her progress sheet. She had stuck to her target 3 days out of 6. On one of the days, she even went below it. So we started with a quick analysis.

The first part of the analysis was talking about the progress sheet to identify areas that needed more work. The three days of smoking more had several stress and habit factors. The most important (in my experience) were the following:
* A visit to relatives who kept giving Marcelle cigarettes to smoke with them, saying “Oh, take a cigarette”.
* A day which started with Marcelle saying to herself “Today, I’m going to improve”.

Then I started the muscle-testing. We tested for a few things that came up not relevant, and then I asked Marcelle to repeat “I´m going to improve” whilst pressing on her arm. The arm went weak. In other words, there is something about “I am going to improve” that made Marcelle fail that day. We talked a bit about that and investigated the theme of the following ideas that Marcelle felt were related:
* “My mother never stops criticizing me, and so will not stop if I stop smoking, so what’s the point”.
* “I’m going to fail anyway, so I may as well fail now”.
* “No matter how much I improve, my mother will not love me”.

I then asked Marcelle to find a time in her life that encapsulates the above. She came up with a specific childhood memory that on the surface seemed totally unrelated. But it had many aspects of root causes of smoking. The story started when Marcelle had been given some money by a visiting uncle. The rule was that she had to hand that money over to her mother. But on that occasion, Marcelle, wanting to keep the money away from her abusive mother, left to the shop as soon as the uncle had left, and she bought a big bag of sweets with all the money. Upon her return, her mother threw her out on the porch in the dark. She was out there for several hours before her father came home and let her back in. The event started at an intensity of 8. We tapped in down to about a zero, tapping on all the following aspects:
* The hurt.
* That no matter what Marcelle did, she got a hiding from her mother, so she may as well be naughty anyway.
* The danger of being out alone in the dark as a helpless child.
* That she physically could not eat all those sweets, although she had them with her when she was thrown out, and her mother and sisters finished them afterwards.
* That her mother will never stop criticizing her.
* That her mother will never act proud of her or be approving of her.
* That her mother continues to treat her badly, in start contrast to the favored sister, who gets the good treatment.
* Smoking is a rebellion against her mother, who does not like her smoking.
* Guilt about not loving her mother like a daughter “should”.

By the end of this tapping, Marcelle was so relaxed she was almost asleep. We tested again for “I’m going to improve”, and it tested strong and clear.

We then tapped on other smoking issues, clearing them. And finally we muscle-tested for a new smoking reduction plan. Marcelle tested weak for 7 cigarettes a day and strong for 6 a day and 5 a day. This is good, meaning that she really did not want to smoke more than 6. So we drew up a new plan of a maximum of 6 a day.

The plan also includes exercise. As we were setting up the new version, Marcelle proudly announced that she had had to take her jeans in at the hips. Now how’s that for a great treatment? She is losing the cigarettes and weight! And she is overcoming the many years of abuse without any psychotherapy, without painful talking about the issue over and over again, nor anything like that. Every time she leaves her session, she feels lighter and stronger, her face radiant and calm. This is why I like this treatment so much; because it is holistic and gentle, the results far-reaching into every aspect of the person´s life and well-being. Now who do you know who did hypnosis-only and got these great additional results?! As always, I look forward to the next session!

© Suzanne Zacharia 2011. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.quit-smoking-ebook.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com

Stop Smoking EFT and Kinesiology-Based Muscle Testing Cape Town – Marcelle, 3rd Session

Posted by – May 1, 2011

“Marcelle” (not her real name) is seeing me for stopping smoking. I have previously helped some of her relatives, and she wanted to stop smoking with me. She had tried before on her own and lasted about one day. She is now on my reduction plan, where we reduce smoking until she stops. This is a plan that works very well for smokers in Cape Town, where the pressures of life mean that quitting in one session is a rare possibility. This is unlike my home town of London, where most people could easily stop in one session. In Cape Town, I now use EFT tapping and Kinesiology-based muscle testing for treatment and accurate gauging of the reduction plan, and the combination works like magic. I am really delighted that Marcelle gave permission to write her stop-smoking journey, so that others can know just how easy and complete this combination can be.

 

The third session went off to a great start. Marcelle had reduced her smoking even further than expected. The reason was that despite a huge challenge which would have sent her straight to the cigarettes, she was able to remain strong by doing her homework! This was a simple adaptation of EFT tapping called rant-and-tap, where you tap on favorite or emergency points over and over again whilst talking or thinking about what is bothering you. This was Marcelle’s mother being abusive, and Marcelle handled the situation very well. I also think that treating some of the mother root causes had taken a good chunk of the reasons to smoke out of Marcelle’s energy system, leaving her stronger overall. Marcelle was justifiably proud of her achievement as she told me how she decided to tap as soon as she needed to, thereby being able to overcome what was a strong urge to smoke.

We then started looking for smoking triggers. I asked Marcelle to imagine she is looking at a DVD of her life, going back and forth in time, until it reached an incident or a time where she felt like smoking. This was after a meal. I asked her where she was in the DVD and who was with her. She said she was in the lounge on her own. So we tapped on that scenario, using wording like “Even though I have this after eating cigarette desire…” as well as what I call Ericksonian EFT, where I tell a thought-changing hypnotic story as we tap. The desire went from a 6 out of 10 to a 3 to a 2, where it stayed. Sensing that probing further was not appropriate, I decided it was good enough and moved on.

Next, I asked Marcelle about her smoking desire at a forthcoming social event. It was a 3 out of 10. I tapped with her on all aspects I could think of, but then she suddenly said that it was the car journey where she saw herself smoking. We had only just started to tap on that when out tumbled a surprising root cause. Marcelle had been in a terrifying car accident some 20 years or more previously. So we tapped on all the points whilst she told me about the car accident, so that we can release it from her system gently. I kept asking her questions about it that she had to answer, all very gently of course. And at the end of that tapping, the desire to smoke in the car was under a 1 out of 10. All very good!

We then tapped on the smoking desire when Marcelle got up in the night. This went from a 7 out of 10 to a 4 to a 2. We used wording such as “Even though I need this night cigarette…” and mentally walked through the processes we tapped.

And finally, we muscle-tested for the minimum number of cigarettes Marcelle could easily have, and this turned out to be 6. So I gave her a target of 6-9 per day to aim for till next time.

© Suzanne Zacharia 2011. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.quit-smoking-ebook.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com

Stop Smoking EFT and Kinesiology-Based Muscle Testing Cape Town – Marcelle, 2nd Session

Posted by – May 1, 2011

 

“Marcelle” (name changed) is on a reduction plan to stop smoking for good. The way it works is as follows. Every session, we release as much as we can of the reasons behind the smoking. We are doing this with EFT, otherwise known as Emotional Freedom Techniques or Tapping. Then we do an objective assessment, with Kinesiology-based muscle-testing, of how many cigarettes we can comfortably reduce to. We are doing this all the way to zero, and progress so far is successfully on track. I am indeed grateful to Marcelle for letting me write her story. It is written soon after it happens. This way, you can tell that it is real.

On her second session, Marcelle announced that she had indeed stuck to our agreed reduction plan for about 3 days. Then she struggled to cope with that number all of a sudden. I thought that was strange, because we had muscle-tested for accuracy in determining that figure. So I wondered what went wrong. Marcelle seemed very ashamed of herself and very despondent because of this. After further gentle questioning, Marcelle revealed what had really happened. Her abusive mother had visited around Day 3 and proceeded to deeply personally insult Marcelle’s teenage daughter, being very abusive and totally freaking out. Marcelle tried to verbally defend her daughter, but her mother carried on with the tirade of abuse. I asked Marcelle whether in the light of this information, it made sense that she was stressed and needed to calm herself with a cigarette. She agreed. We then started the tapping.

We started tapping on something like “Even though I have this feeling about when my mother came over and freaked out…”, interspersed with just tap-and-rant. Tap-and-rant is when you just tap on all the points you use whilst telling about what happened. This event came down from a out of 10 to a 4, and then a 2. We then tapped on all the points as started to figure out solutions to protect Marcelle from her mother and her children from their abusive grandmother. We came to many ideas, some of which Marcelle has successfully put in place after this session (I write this after our third), and as a result, Marcelle did very well with her reduction plan after this session. Next, I asked her for a time when her mother was abusive to her, maybe in childhood. Marcelle came up with a time when she was 12 and her mother accused her of stealing an item of jewellery and called the police to take her away. The police took the 12-year-old child away for questioning. This was in the old South Africa, so I can imagine this was not a gentle experience. The police believed Marcelle and called the mother to come and take her back home. Afterwards, the thief was found, but not reported, and Marcelle did not receive an apology either. This event started at an intensity of 7 out of 10, and with some inner child work, we reduced it to a 1. We then re-visited the recent mother freaking out incident, and Marcelle said it was now simply a “bright light”. She was peaceful.

We then muscle-tested for emotions and aspects that weaken Marcelle where cigarettes were concerned. We came up with Rejection and Sleep problems due to a hypothalamus challenge. We tapped for both, and then we muscle-tested for number of cigarettes to cut down to. This was 11-12 a day, and Marcelle was able to even reduce further, because she carried out her homework brilliantly! This was simply tap-and-rant!

In the next article in this series (which in most browsers appears just above this one), I tell you how Marcelle exceeded our expectations and how the third session revealed an interesting twist to the need to smoke in the car.

© Suzanne Zacharia 2011. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.stop-smoking-ebooks.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com

How To Release The Need To Be Perfect And Stop Smoking

Posted by – October 12, 2010

An unhealthy need to be perfect may seem just a drive for excellence, but there is a difference. It is one thing to aim to get things right and be the best you can be, and quite another to feel under constant pressure to perform. And the stress of this pressure keeps many a perfectionist smoker struggling in vain to give up.

And most smokers with an unhealthy need to be perfect do not recognize where this difference lies. Typically, they report having a need to smoke or a habit of smoking. Part of the unhealthy need to be perfect I the denial of imperfection. However, there is a way to find out, and there is a solution.

To find out if you have this unhealthy need, simply ask yourself how true this statement is:

I must always be perfect.
Rate the Validity Of Cognition, or truth value of this statement from a 10 to zero, where 10 is totally true and zero is totally false.

If this statement is anything above a zero, then you have just found one big emotional belief that blocks your stop-smoking success. You can now release this belief with effective modern energy psychology methods such as EFT. As you EFT this statement, you may gain many insights and have events come up for healing. This is a great opportunity to release those insidious drivers of smoking that lurk under the surface.

 

The best results are achieved after every aspect of this statement is tapped down to a zero. And then, you will find quitting smoking a much easier process.

© Suzanne Zacharia 2010. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of your Stop Smoking book at http://www.quit-smoking-ebook.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com