Month: June 2011

How EFT and Kinesiology-Based Methods Are Better Than Even Hypnosis To Stop Smoking

Posted by – June 23, 2011

Welcome to the continuing story of “Marcelle” (not her real name), one determined ex-smoker-to-be slowly but surely overcoming a stubborn smoking addiction. To give you some background, I have a good history of helping smokers quit in one session in London and usually within 6 sessions in Cape Town (different cultural stresses). Marcelle’s relatives quit with me in 2-3 sessions, and she does understand the benefits of going at her own pace, which is relatively slower but a very healing process.

 

We are using a mixture of EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, or Tapping, and kinesiology-based muscle-testing and treatment. The treatment is gentle and removes the emotional reasons behind the smoking. As these are removed, Marcelle is able to smoke less. Every time that we can, we draw up a plan to cut down on the daily number of cigarettes smoked. The last target that Marcelle had was 7 cigarettes. It is the 10th session, and Marcelle showed me her progress sheet. She had stuck to her target 3 days out of 6. On one of the days, she even went below it. So we started with a quick analysis.

The first part of the analysis was talking about the progress sheet to identify areas that needed more work. The three days of smoking more had several stress and habit factors. The most important (in my experience) were the following:
* A visit to relatives who kept giving Marcelle cigarettes to smoke with them, saying “Oh, take a cigarette”.
* A day which started with Marcelle saying to herself “Today, I’m going to improve”.

Then I started the muscle-testing. We tested for a few things that came up not relevant, and then I asked Marcelle to repeat “I´m going to improve” whilst pressing on her arm. The arm went weak. In other words, there is something about “I am going to improve” that made Marcelle fail that day. We talked a bit about that and investigated the theme of the following ideas that Marcelle felt were related:
* “My mother never stops criticizing me, and so will not stop if I stop smoking, so what’s the point”.
* “I’m going to fail anyway, so I may as well fail now”.
* “No matter how much I improve, my mother will not love me”.

I then asked Marcelle to find a time in her life that encapsulates the above. She came up with a specific childhood memory that on the surface seemed totally unrelated. But it had many aspects of root causes of smoking. The story started when Marcelle had been given some money by a visiting uncle. The rule was that she had to hand that money over to her mother. But on that occasion, Marcelle, wanting to keep the money away from her abusive mother, left to the shop as soon as the uncle had left, and she bought a big bag of sweets with all the money. Upon her return, her mother threw her out on the porch in the dark. She was out there for several hours before her father came home and let her back in. The event started at an intensity of 8. We tapped in down to about a zero, tapping on all the following aspects:
* The hurt.
* That no matter what Marcelle did, she got a hiding from her mother, so she may as well be naughty anyway.
* The danger of being out alone in the dark as a helpless child.
* That she physically could not eat all those sweets, although she had them with her when she was thrown out, and her mother and sisters finished them afterwards.
* That her mother will never stop criticizing her.
* That her mother will never act proud of her or be approving of her.
* That her mother continues to treat her badly, in start contrast to the favored sister, who gets the good treatment.
* Smoking is a rebellion against her mother, who does not like her smoking.
* Guilt about not loving her mother like a daughter “should”.

By the end of this tapping, Marcelle was so relaxed she was almost asleep. We tested again for “I’m going to improve”, and it tested strong and clear.

We then tapped on other smoking issues, clearing them. And finally we muscle-tested for a new smoking reduction plan. Marcelle tested weak for 7 cigarettes a day and strong for 6 a day and 5 a day. This is good, meaning that she really did not want to smoke more than 6. So we drew up a new plan of a maximum of 6 a day.

The plan also includes exercise. As we were setting up the new version, Marcelle proudly announced that she had had to take her jeans in at the hips. Now how’s that for a great treatment? She is losing the cigarettes and weight! And she is overcoming the many years of abuse without any psychotherapy, without painful talking about the issue over and over again, nor anything like that. Every time she leaves her session, she feels lighter and stronger, her face radiant and calm. This is why I like this treatment so much; because it is holistic and gentle, the results far-reaching into every aspect of the person´s life and well-being. Now who do you know who did hypnosis-only and got these great additional results?! As always, I look forward to the next session!

© Suzanne Zacharia 2011. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.quit-smoking-ebook.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com

Latest Success In Previously-Challenging Cape Town Stop Smoking Case

Posted by – June 17, 2011

When “Marcelle” (not her real name) first came to see me, she was smoking about 15 cigarettes a day. The day before her 9th session, this was down to 7 a day. And now, after a few weeks’ stalemate, she has succeeded to stick to her last reduction plan, which was 9 cigarettes a day. Each cigarette represents negative emotion. We have been releasing plenty of these, and now, finally, the number is less than half what we started with. Marcelle was very proud.

 

If you have been following this series of articles, I am also pleased to report that the disastrous happening in Marcelle’s life is now over. The EFT we did has clearly helped her through it, as she has simply bounced back to her usual cheerful self now.

Whilst Marcelle’s relatives had quit with me in 2-3 sessions, including her husband, she does understand the benefits of going at her own pace, and that this is OK. Marcelle reported that she feels she has grown and developed through this healing journey. She has become a stronger person and feels different. This is what happens when you quit smoking using EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, otherwise known as Tapping. It is truly a journey to freedom from many negative emotions, so you feel lighter and calmer as a result.

We started Marcelle’s session with kinesiology-based muscle-testing. This is a biofeedback mechanism that gives information about the body and speaks with the subconscious mind. The testing revealed an imbalance in neurotransmitters on the left part of her brain. We proceeded to treat with a 635 nm cold laser.

Next came the emotional stuff underlying the smoking. I tapped on Marcelle as she verbally walked me through her average day’s smoking, from start to finish. Her voice became strained and her shoulders looked stiff when she came to one particular part, so we stopped there for tapping. The situation was teaching her grandson and helping him with his homework. The grandson insists that his teacher’s way of doing things is the right way and will not consider any other approaches that Marcelle takes. The desire to smoke after this homework session started on a 9 out of 10 intensity. Marcelle said that after all that, she needed a treat. We began tapping saying statements like “Even though I need this treat…” and “Even though I don’t want to deprive myself of this treat”. The intensity reduced to a 6 out of 10. And then I tapped on Marcelle something like “Even though he insists his teacher is right, at least he is respectful of his teachers, and that’s a great attribute than many kids don’t have”. Marcelle agreed, citing a story with one of her daughters, and how she did better when she learned to like her teacher. But still, Marcelle was unhappy about this teacher adoration, so much so, she still wanted that cigarette. I asked her if there could be a parallel in her own childhood and life where her mother favors her sister all the time. She agreed and saw the connection straight away. So we released this block with Inner Child tapping, and Marcelle no longer desired the after-homework cigarette. It was a zero intensity.

Marcelle then carried on walking me through her smoking day. We came at a point which I know from experience to be relevant. This was a cigarette smoked with a favorite close person. The person in question was her aunt, let’s call her “Auntie Nelly”. We started at a need to smoke with Auntie Nelly of 6 out of 10, which went down to 5 after some tapping. I kept tapping on Marcelle as I asked her if this aunt is like a mother to her, since her mother was abusive and not like a mother. Marcelle agreed, and we tapped on all aspects of this, until finally, the desire was about a zero, and Marcelle could see herself happily just being with Auntie Nellie as she alone smoked. The bond keeping the two so close together was love, and there was no need to cement it with a cigarette.

Lastly, we tapped on one more daily cigarette, and moved on to the muscle-testing. 7 Cigarettes a day tested strong, and 6 and 5 a day were weaker, so we set anew target of 7 cigarettes a day. I look forward to our next session!

© Suzanne Zacharia 2011. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.quit-smoking-ebook.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com

Stop-Smoking EFT As ¨Marcelle¨ Is Going Through Extreme Stress

Posted by – June 10, 2011

I hesitate with every word as I write this. Not because there is no great progress, not because she had not been attending sessions, but because ¨Marcelle¨, my client, is in a unique situation, and to write succinctly about it could identify third parties who did not give permission for this story to be told. So I am writing somewhat cryptically and concentrating on explaining the techniques we used and the measure of success. So that I would not identify Marcelle’s situation, I will list it amongst common ones that have come up with many clients.

* A loved one is taken seriously ill with a terminal disease, and the ex-smoker-to-be becomes their main carer.
* A neighbour turns violent and abusive, or there is a gang war outside the home of the ex-smoker-to-be. Whilst the matter is being dealt with in the courts or with the police, which could take several months, the person is constantly living under threat.
* A current lover or a stalker becomes abusive. Whilst the ex-smoker-to be finds a solution, they live with the situation and have to cope.
* A loved one passes away, and the ex-smoker-to-be has to go through the grieving process.
* A sudden business catastrophe occurs, such as losing one’s job.

Marcelle’s current situation reminds me of some others’, where all of a sudden, the ex-smoker-to-be is catapulted into a highly stressful ongoing traumatic situation from which there is no quick way out. What the person can then do is weather the storm as best as they can. What is remarkably different about Marcelle’s case though, is that instead of giving in and giving up her program, she has continued to attend sessions.

We got stuck for about two sessions, and then on the seventh session, we worked with the Tell The Story technique on Marcelle’s challenging situation. It took about 50 minutes, and when we finished, although the latest traumatic event was a zero, Marcelle had a pain in her left shoulder. I explained to Marcelle that where the pain was indicated stuck fear. I explained further that EFT can be used on physical pain too. Ex-smokers-to-be in Cape Town are usually reluctant to tap on physical pain, partly due to beliefs in this country about specialisation. However, Marcelle was happy to give it a try. Tapping directly on “This pain in my left shoulder” quickly got the pain down from a 5 to a zero out of 10. Marcelle was delighted.

Because Marcelle was still living in a situation where she would be traumatised every single day of her life, I did not bother with the muscle-testing. Instead, I gave her a structured program plan on paper. She was to put it somewhere prominent and make a tick for every day she managed without the 6 am cigarette and every day she managed not to exceed 10 cigarettes. The plan was good, resulting in four successful days out of seven.

In the eighth session, we again tapped for the latest traumatic event. We then drew up a new program on paper with a maximum of 9 cigarettes a day. I also gave Marcelle homework to tap for cigarette desire before having each cigarette. The deal was that she could still have it if after tapping, she still wanted it.

I am very impressed with Marcelle’s progress under such extreme conditions. She is a good example for anyone struggling with an addiction to follow. By working on the extreme trauma in her daily life, she is ensuring that when this situation does finally end, she will not be holding on to this trauma and therefore is much more likely to remain successfully quit.

© Suzanne Zacharia 2011. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.quit-smoking-ebook.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com