In NLP and Hypnosis it is a good common practice to model successful people to see what they are doing that makes them successful. And you may well say that these people are successful just because of their genes or because it is them. But you see, it is not that those successful people are better than the rest of us, but that in one particular area of their life that we are trying to emulate, they have it easy. No matter what the rest of their lives looks like, in that one area they achieve success without even thinking about it. Now we need to ask the question: What do those people do to become successful in that area that I can do to become successful too? And you can stop smoking by asking yourself what it is about people who have never smoked and are happy not smoking; what do they do that you can do?
One stop-smoking client answered this question for me very eloquently. She said that her husband, who has never smoked, usually speaks his mind, and sometimes gets angry or sulks, and then when he is happy, he thinks nothing of jumping up in the air or doing a little dance. She was actually not deliberately answering the question of why he was successful at being a non-smoker. She was complaining that he did not keep his emotions under super-tight control! I said to her that this is exactly what she should explore in herself, why she has to appear in control at all times and why she has to drug her emotions with nicotine. I explained that her husband is simply sharing his feelings and expressing himself, rather than forcing himself to keep a tight lid on them, and that is why he does not need a drug called nicotine, as he does not have a need to appear unemotional all the time.
The need to appear unemotional is one aspect of smoking. Sometimes, this need is not an over-the-top unnatural need, but a need to remain in control whilst some pretty scary emotions are threatening to come to the surface. And then, we can ask ourselves, what does a non-smoker do in these cases? Well, they deal with those emotions, so that there is no need to drug themselves with nicotine. Some take medication from the doctor for say, anxiety or depression, some go to a psychotherapist on a weekly basis, and some investigate some great new methods for release, such as Emotional Freedom Techniques, and let go of those overwhelming negative emotions forever.
Tapping, otherwise known as Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT, is a great way to release any emotional blocks in your way. And then you too can act like a non-smoker and so feel as relaxed as a non-smoker and become finally a calm non-smoker yourself. And the greatest benefit is that you can be totally in charge of the process itself.
© Suzanne Zacharia 2010. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.
A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.
I am now a complementary therapist, author of your Stop Smoking book at http://www.quit-smoking-ebook.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com